Tuesday, September 29, 2009

The Great Cheerleading Controversy.

If you have read my blog for any length of time, you know I am not big on getting involved with the soccer moms and their school related dramas.

I really don't give a shit about what is going on at the school unless they have beaten the hell out of my kid. And only then if the little shit didn't have it coming.

So when the caller ID flashed with the name of one of the class mothers, I knew I should have let it go to voicemail.

Instead I picked it up out of curiosity.

BIG mistake.

This classmate is a friend of my daughter and also a fellow cheerleader. Tryouts for the placement of the kids on the squad were last week. The girls had the option of making Varsity or Jr Varsity. All the girls would make the team but only the best would make Varsity.

My Princess came home last week and said she was disappointed that she didn't make varsity this year.

"Maybe next year" I said with a shrug and that was that.

Or so I thought.

The parent that called me was OUTRAGED that her kid didn't make the first string squad. And when I say OUTRAGED I mean vomiting pea soups, head turning completely around, pissed off hysterical. I'll call her POM or Pissed Off Mom.

Her first question was how I felt about it.

Honestly I said the other girls that made it were better than my daughter so I had no problem with their choices at all.

Apparently the wrong answer.

"Well, do you think it is FAIR that there were five girls in one class that tried out and only two make it!!!??" snapped POM.

Ummm, yeah?

She went on and on about self esteem and being disappointed and how it was funny how the cheerleader coach's own kid made Varsity but our kids did not. It was also brought up that the other girl that made the squad has a mother that donated money to the team to buy new uniforms and isn't THAT interesting.

Ummm, no?

The coach's kid has been cheering since she was five and is just terrific. The contributor's kid is also very active in the sport and is equally as good.

Honestly, POM's kid sucks. I mean really sucks. She flaps around like a bird, has no coordination and can't follow the cheers.

The Princess is definitely more coordinated but she doesn't have the confidence that the other two that made the first string possesses so I think they made a good choice.

POM had insisted on a meeting with the principal and the coach this morning and wanted me to back her up. Of course I told her that I have no intention of doing any such thing, I have no problem with any of this.

She said her daughter doesn't want to participate at all if she isn't first string.

I received a call on my way to work and the outcome of the meeting is the coach stood her ground and POM's kid quit.

What the hell kind of message is this sending to your kid lady? The world is a competitive place and every kid isn't going to excel at all things. Kids need to learn about disappointment and after the age of 8, I don't feel like all things need to be equal anymore. Kids should learn to compete and do their best. Things aren't always handed to you because you want them or you Mommy will bitch loudly about your emotional problems and how important this is to your self esteem.

I feel bad for this kid. She is going to be ill prepared for what the future has in store for her.


razorbeck said...

Get with the program .... every one gets a ribbon damn it

Karen said...

This may be an unpopular view, but I have no problem with the coach's kid or the uniform buyer's kid making the team even if they aren't better.

Another good lesson to learn is that many, many times in life we excel because of who we know, not just our talent. And sometimes in life you can buy your way out of or into situations. Heck, that is reality. Life is not fair.

Vinomom said...

I compeltely agree w/ everything you said in this post. All that mom did was teach her kid that it's ok to quit if you don't get what you want the first time. And the kid lost the chance to learn and get better. Dumbasses.

Olly said...

Jeez, even in Special Olympics it's all about friendly competition, doing your best and good sportsmanship. AND? Only the best get ribbons and move up in the ranks.

Unfortunately, the POM is also the type to prattle on with big opinions about reality shows on TV. Another reason why I don't hang out with the "School Soccer Moms"

The Dish said...

Good Lord, POM is a piece of work. Way to show your daughter that quitting when you don't get your way is an acceptable solution. Why do some of these people have the ability to breed?

Becky..AMHW said...

I have issues with this post and for no other reason than I'm speshul.

GiGi said...

POM is an idiot. I hate people that attempt to drag others into their drama - stay away, stay FAR, far away!

Special K said...

Obviously POM didn't make first string either back in her day and she is yet another "living vicariously" helicopter Mom. Gotta love those. Not.

Coffeypot said...

Being and ex-coach for park association football and baseball teams I can tell you the worst things about it are the parents. I believe that all parents should be banned from any field the kids are playing on. Let the kids play and learn.

Christine said...

K.. you just might be right. But this women has always been strange. She read me an email she sent the coach and it went on and on talking about her daughter's medical problems and how she has esteem issues and blah blah. As if she should be accommodated because of her problems. However, apparently I did get through to her a little because she did tell me at the meeting she said "another parent opened my eyes to the fact that the 2 other girls have worked harder and are more skilled so I guess that is ok in a way..BUT esteem, kumbaya, trophies for all blah blah". Hey..baby steps.

Christine said...

I've been thinking about what Karen commented and she may be right. It really is who you know. Although I think POM would have had more of a point if the other two girls sucked. I suspect they were the ones that Mom's were cheerleaders and they started them off at an early age. The two really are great for 10 year olds. They do belong with the middle school kids. The Princess enjoys it for what it is..I wish her little friend would too. I asked POM if her kid has been practicing and the answer was no. So I really don't get it. I guess I do...give me kid the same shit even though she isn't good enough nor worked for it.

Evil Twin's Wife said...

POM is the reason why so many kids grow up thinking the rules don't apply to them. Idiot!

Shiny Rod said...

I know this is a guys perspective but my niece went through ballerina training and it helped her build her confidence and coordination. Just a suggestion for the POM.

TLP said...

Oh, man.

POM's daughter must be so embarrassed! And now, this kid really can't try out for cheerleading ever again. If the kid had stuck it out on the jr. squad, she might have gotten better. But even if she's never going to be any good at cheerleading, she might have made friends and had fun.

What is wrong with people like POM?

kel said...

I have a 7 year old daughter and we have already dealt with these "mama dramas"... i guess it's only gonna get worse!

The Girl said...

That's a shame. This little girl is going to be in for one rude awakening when she grows up. Is Mommy gonna bitch out an interviewer when she doesn't get a job. Glad you stood your ground with her.

Libby said...

christine, i bet this woman was all on top of the "jon & kate + 8 drama...