I had a shock this week in my personal life. One of those things that catch you off guard and take your breath away. I am not going to get too far into it other than to say someone I cared about very deeply has moved on with his life as was his right and quite honestly, his obligation to himself.
However, that doesn't make the pain any less.
So I did what any 40 something year old does in a situation such as this.
I went crying to my mommy for comfort.
Obviously you see how distraught I must have been to take such a step but it is hard to be logical when your emotions have taken over.
Her response was very reassuring and supportive...
"Shame on him!" she said.
Yeah. I thought. Shame on him for hurting me and not preparing me for this shock. Shame on him for allowing me to continue thinking our friendship was salvageable when he obviously felt it was not.
Whew. Thanks Mom.
Now what I should have done, was quit while I was ahead. But no, I never learn. I let her pour me a cup of coffee and she went on.
"Of course it is your own fault. You never did show the loyalty to him that you should have. You consistently make bad choices and then wonder why things backfire in your face. You don't give people the attention they deserve and expect them to just stick around for more abuse." Blah- Blah- Yada- Yada- you suck-