Tuesday, September 23, 2008




If I have to listen to one more friend over analyze why the guy she flirted with Saturday night didn't call, I am going to burn my fucking ears off.

I thought at 40, I would be over this shit but no. Seems so many of us are out there looking for permanent relationship number two that we have reverted back to asking if we think Joey from 4th period pulled our pigtails because he likes us.

I am beginning to think many women can talk themselves into anything. To me, if you meet a gentleman, you have a nice time, he asks for your number, you give it and he doesn't call,it means he simply didn't want to get together.

Simple right???


Apparently I am wrong and needed to be corrected. Mr Right didn't call because of one of the following reasons....

He is too scared of being hurt in another relationship.

He is insecure and doesn't want to make the first move.

He really wants to call but he is intimidated by strong powerful women in general.

He's been burned before and wants to take it very slow.

oh and the dreaded..

He must have lost my phone number.

The worst part of this is sitting around while women commiserate with one another and agree that one or all of these is probably the reason for the rejection.

I've been out in the dating world and one thing I know for sure....if a guy is into you, you'll know it and won't have to make excuses for him.

If you're waiting by the phone for days, it is time to toss out that rancid pork chop and find yourself a new one.

We can say "his loss" but why the fuck can't we BELIEVE it?

15 comments:

OneHungMan said...

He didn't call because he found someone else who would blow him. It's not terribly difficult. He'll probably call when he's done getting blown by the newest chick he found.

Coffeypot said...

onehungman is right. You don't put out right then and there you are just into games and too much trouble. If you had crawled under the table for a quick bj, then he would be calling you every fifteen minuets.

But sometimes he will wait because he doesn't want to seem so desperate that he will call you before you get home.

Sometimes his wife finds the number and it's hard to call from the morgue.

However, you are right, too. There are just too many single people out there to get upset over a missed phone call. The next one will be the charm. Or the next one.

I thought you ex was back in the picture. Did I miss a post or something?

Christine said...

What CP? Am I supposed to stop trading up? Geez.

Libby said...

christine--you & i both know what you said is true...but, how much shit do you have to go thru b4 you believe it? more than you ever in your life imagined, huh? but once you get there, it feels GREAT!

Olly said...

For me it's not listening to "I wonder why he didn't call", it's all "I wonder why my marriage fell apart". Not just from women, but mostly men.

When did I start looking like god-damn dear Abby? One of these days someone is going to catch me in the throws of a good pms rage and they are going to get the painful truth that they are a self-centred, useless, narcissistic, pansy-assed mommy's boy.

Um...ok...

Maybe I shouldn't comment on stuff like this during a bout of pms...

Just sayin.

Talk amongst yourselves...

Eunice said...

Woman, you have hit the nail squarely on the head. To blatantly rip off a best-selling self-help title, "He's just not that into you."

Suck it up. Move on.

Why do women have to overcomplicate things?

Karen said...

Sorry, but that excuse stuff is crap! I still follow the old rules set forth in "He's Just Not That Into You".

Guy aren't scared or busy or whatever if they really want to see you.

Jay said...

Give me her number. I'll call her. LOL ;-)

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Jen Naspinski said...

Did these women NOT watch sex and the city? And miss the bookstore with "He's Just Not That Into You"? Life is so much simpler now-if a man wants you, he will let you know. Otherwise, move on. NEXT!

therapy in the making said...

Wonderfully put. You know some men do the same too, right?

Christine said...

Actually, I really didn't Colin. I can't picture guys sitting around making excuses why some bitch didn't call.

I just imagine a lot of "fuck that whore" being exclaimed. Who knew?

therapy in the making said...

Haha, that happens too. But some of them if they really like the girl will do it.

Burfica said...

I agree with you 100%. if a guy didn't call me, I didn't bother with him or with feeling bad.

But the one that called me once a week from Italy, he was a keeper. hehehehehe

I'm back by the way.